Woman is Accused by Sister-In-Law of Being an Incompetent Babysitter, Woman Now Refuses to Babysit, Family Accuses Her of Being Selfish: 'You owe it to family'

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 27, 2024 5:00 PM EST

Family drama is back, front and center, and no one is safe. You'd hope to be a good aunt to your sibling's kids, how could you not be, as long as you love them and create a safe environment? However, this mother had other ideas about how she wanted her child to be watched. I sense a family rift coming. Everyone has their own parenting style, but can you really expect everyone to follow and indulge your exact instructions and every particular method you have?

Talk about an overbearing sister-in-law who's also an overbearing mother, those are the worst, don't you think? I'm happy to say I don't have any in my family... yet. In this woman's family, not only is she not speaking to her sister-in-law now, and refusing to babysit, but now her parents think she's selfish. Matters are spiraling out of control, and things are about to get even wilder.

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    However, my SIL has always been kind of cold to me, and since I started babysitting, it's only gotten worse. She criticizes everything I do, from how I change diapers to what snacks | give the baby.
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    r/AITAH Blossom Fairy21 AITAH for not wanting to babysit my brother's kid anymore because of how his wife treats me?
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    In-laws can be the worst, wouldn't you agree?

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    My (28F) brother (30M) and his wife (27F) had their first baby a year ago. I've been helping them out by babysitting for free a couple of days a week since they
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    It all started out innocently enough. Who doesn't want to be the cool aunt? 

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    can't afford daycare, and I work from home. I genuinely love my niece, and I was happy to help out at first.
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    We love a healthy aunt and niece relationship! 

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    However, my SIL has always been kind of cold to me, and since I started babysitting, it's only gotten worse. She criticizes everything I do, from how I change diapers to what snacks |
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    Things took a turn for the worst. Here's hoping relationships can be maintained after this explosion.

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    give the baby. She sends long texts with "instructions" every single time, as if I'm not familiar with a baby I've been caring for two days a week for a year. Once, I gave my niece a bath because
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    she had a massive diaper blowout, and my SIL freaked out because I "didn't follow her specific method."
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    The breaking point came last week when I was babysitting, and SIL came home early. She didn't even say hi, just started picking apart what I was doing. I finally snapped and told her that if she
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    doesn't trust me, she should just find someone else to watch the baby. She told me I was being. dramatic and that I "owe it to family." When I told my brother, he said I should let it go because SIL is under a lot of stress.
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    I told them I'm done babysitting unless something changes. Now, my brother is upset, SIL isn't speaking to me, and my parents think I'm being selfish. I feel bad
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    for leaving my brother in a tough spot, but I also feel like I'm being taken advantage of. AITAH?
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    Really-ChillDude NTA they had free a free baby sitter, they were being rude to. They should have both been grateful.
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    Majestic_Bit_4784 ΝΤΑ You have been helping them out free of charge, sod them all they can hire someone to babysit their child and tell your parents they can step up to the plate and babysit their grandchild. They are taking the pee out of you, don't let them.
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    bino0526 Brother and SIL should not have had a kid if they can't afford daycare. What would they have done if OP was not available? Find a way to pay for daycare, maybe? ④
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    • wild spiral 1d ago • You were being nice to them and No, you don't "owe" it to them. They were getting a free baby sitter and that's all they care about. You did well by setting some boundaries. I am surprised that your parents consider you selfish.
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    AaronRender "I no longer offer babysitting for free. In compensation for my time. and effort, I require you to STFU. If you fail to pay for my services, they will no longer be provided."
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    Difficult Proces... You were babysitting for free on your own time while being abused by your SIL yet you're the one that's selfish?
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    CatmoCatmo NTA. But you would be one. To yourself. If you allow her to keep treating you like this.
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    FortuneWhereT... NTA While her stress may be understandable, her taking it out on you is unacceptable. Her treating you like an indentured nanny who can't think for herself is unacceptable.
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    Luvfallandpsl OP: Could you use $14,400? What would you spend that money on?
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